“Sit on my bed and talk to me,” Ms. Keochareon said.
The students hesitated, saying they had been taught not to do that, to prevent transmission of germs. What they knew of nursing in hospitals — “I’m here to take your vitals, give you your medicine, okay, bye,” was different, after all.
That’s excerpted from a fascinating NY Times article, http://www.nytimes.com/2013/01/11/us/fatally-ill-and-making-herself-the-lesson.html?pagewanted=1&_r=0&nl=todaysheadlines&emc=edit_th_20130111.
Martha Keochareon, a 59-year-old woman who’d graduated from Holyoke Community College nursing school in 1993, was dying from pancreatic cancer. She asked her alma mater if they’d be interested in having their students see her for intimate exploration of the dying process. They were indeed interested, and Ms. Keochareon was delighted to teach the students they sent.
One instructor observed that when students eventually ran out of asking her medical questions, they practiced what she called “therapeutic communication” instead. “The way we’ve learned in school and haven’t applied enough is just saying, ‘I’m glad to be with you; you must be frustrated; you look uncomfortable.’ And let the patient just talk and talk and talk, and see where they’re at.”
Ms. Keochareon died December 29, having pioneered a profound teaching tool. I hope this sort of heart-to-heart teaching spreads.